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Anyone who has been an internet user for a period of time should know that drama is one of the hallmarks of the absolutely wonderful technology that allows us to be connected 24/7. It's like glitter, one moment all you see is just a fleck of it then suddenly, it's everywhere. DeviantArt is chock full of massive amounts of it (drama, not glitter!) at any given time, so let's talk about what you need to know to avoid it (aaaand what to do if you find yourself in it)!

:bulletred: I just caused the argument because... I wanted to get more pageviews, I wanted to be popular, for the lulz, I was bored

 

Girl, bye.

:bulletred: I ALWAYS have to reply

If you think the interwebs is the only place you'll find people you don't agree with, I think it's time you spent a little more time away from your computer. First off, let me say that there's nothing inherently wrong about disagreeing with someone. Nothing at all. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, even if that opinion is not popular or similar to yours. So for the purposes of example (since we are visual people) here's a hypothetical comment thread:
  • Commenter: No offense, but I think this artwork sucks.
Now, let's assume that you like the artwork, or even worse, it's yours. What would be the proper response?
  • #1. I've looked at your gallery, and you can't do any better so ha! Your artwork sucks!one111!!!
  • #2. Why don't you like it?
  • #3. Nothing. You hit the red 'x' and ignored the comment entirely. 
It will be extremely tempting, but responding with #1 is not the way to go. Mainly because you would be inciting a fight, and starting dArama. If you select #2, proceed cautiously. Though initially harmless, it could lead to issues you weren't prepared to deal with, especially if the artwork was not yours. Let me quickly segue into the subject of white-knights for a moment. I've seen some things written recently about white-knights, and why they are harmful, and I think it's worth clearing up the apparent confusion as to exactly what they even are. 

A white-knight is not someone who defends another person regardless of what the argument or issue is. If you even knew your internet history at all you'd know a white-knight is a (scummy) boy standing up for a girl online he has feelings for with the hopes of "favors" in return. How it has mutated to what people now think of it as an annoying 13 year old Belieber (or that 'leave Britney alone' guy) is far beyond me. A white-knight is not a troll, or any of the above. In fact this person can actually bring a little bit of clarity and common sense to a troll off. It's not pointing out facts or even blind defense. Anyone who blindly defends something (or someone) is an idiot, not a white-knight. Please stop confusing them :XD:
Let's review. THIS...
NOT THIS. Got it?
Ok, now that that's out of the way, let's discuss option #3, non-engagement. Option #3 is your honest to goodness, foolproof way to avoid getting into what might become a mucky situation. Some comments truly aren't worth you replying to, so don't give them your time or effort honey!
You are not required to reply to any comment that you do not want to. Plain and simple. 

:bulletred: This person is WRONG and I can PROVE it!

Congratulations, you have logically indisputable, irrefutable facts about a subject either from personal knowledge, actual study, or a quick Google search. Is it truly necessary to go out of your way to prove it to others? I'll save you some time: no. The reason why? It's quite simple, changing what people believe is harder than trying to wash a cat. I'm not saying bringing a little knowledge into a conversation isn't important, of course it is! But this is about who to even bother imparting that knowledge onto. Let's go back to the previous hypothetical comment thread and let's say you decided to go with #2 as an initial response:

Commenter: It sucks because anime sucks! The anatomy is all wrong, just look at how huge that head is! Weeaboos are lame! You're one of them aren't you?

Well that wasn't very nice! Let's see what your response options are: 
  • #1. Is that so? Your artwork looks like trash! How dare you assume things about me?!
  • #2. Actually, it's called stylization. Western cartoons are stylized too, just in different ways.
  • #3. Nothing. You hit the red 'x' and ignored the comment entirely. 
Soooo, #1 is a definite no-no. You've just come down to their level and lost a little dignity while you were at it :no:
#2 is good, you presented fact. If you go with #2, don't leave it open ended. A statement of fact (in a condescending manner) can often shut down an unkind commenter. Never use insults of intelligence or name calling, it totally cancels out whatever you said beforehand. 
#3 Once again, will free you from any further issues with that person in that comment thread. 
Don't feed the trolls guys, really.


:bulletred:What if I'm being harassed?


Just imagine this is on the other side of the screen
Regardless of your views on 'cyber-bullying's' legitimacy, harassment via the internet is 100% real. Because of the anonymity of the internet crowd mentality can come into effect swiftly and with little warning. There are several actions that you should take, and the first one is blocking.Don't know how you say? How to Block Someone on DA by wondermanrules
There's a false notion going around that blocking someone means that you are somehow inferior at arguing, 'butthurt,' or you want to get the last word in. No, no, and no. There's also an incorrect notion that blocking is the Help Desk's lazy way of avoiding doing their jobs. Again, no. Blocking someone from interacting with you is a prime way to avoid dArama, never be too intimidated to use the feature. How do I know it works? Well, at one point I was being harassed by not just one person, but a group of people plus whoever decided to jump on their demented bandwagon. I had to block nearly one hundred deviants at one point. Very time consuming, but entirely worth it. 

The second thing you can do if you are being harassed is to hide comments. Again, this is not some snarky method of communication, rather a way to stop the spinning wheel that is dArama. Don't know how to hide comments you say?

Both methods of blocking can easily end any amount of harassment you are receiving. Most unfavorable interactions can be remedied with those steps, however things can get spectacularly nasty at times and that is when you need to contact the Help Desk. 

Before I walk you through that step, let's go over what you can and cannot submit to the Help Desk as an Abuse Report:
  • Do: Report excessive amounts of racial, ethnic, homophobic, bigoted slurs, personal threats, & extreme language.
  • Do: Report someone who has made alternate accounts, or is having a friend continue harassment on their behalf. 
  • Do: Report account hacking or evidenced spying.
  • Do: Report forum threads that are not following the rules.
  • Do Not: Report someone after a simple disagreement.
  • Do Not: Report someone for stealing someone else's artwork (there is a separate method for that).
  • Do not: Report someone for calling you stupid, or any other childish name that could be remedied by blocking. 
  • Do not: Submit screenshots as evidence, they cannot and will not be considered in your case. 
Consult the following FAQs for info on what is considered 'abusive' language and behavior:   
So, let's say things are very bad. The person harassing you is using extreme language, has threatened you and has sent other people after you (or is making alternate accounts to continue harassment). This is a case to submit as an Abuse Report. When you submit your report you need to have the following things:
  1. The username of person you are reporting.
  2. Links to comments that support your allegations. No need to 'unhide' them, moderators will still be able to see the conversation. 
  3. A concise outline of the complaint.
  4. Block all parties involved.
  5. Be patient. It may take the Help Desk time to get to your complaint depending on the seriousness of the situation.
Just some tips on how to avoid drama and stay awesome on deviantART
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:iconraleigh33:
Raleigh33 Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2014
Excellent information. :)

I have to ask though, why can't screenshots be used in reporting abuse? Does DA say why?
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:iconxadrea:
Xadrea Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
Most likely because they can be easily doctored by the person making the report, although that's just my conclusion I don't think there's been any official reasoning made. It is stated however on the abuse report form that screenshots can't be used, so I'd assume that there's been trouble with that in the past :)
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Raleigh33 Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2014
Thank you, that makes a lot of sense. :) 
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:iconxadrea:
Xadrea Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
You're welcome :D
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Minakie Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
7 years on dA and I never actually had to worry about any of this. But to be honest I've been making a lot of mini hiatus and I was never really active on the community. Now that I'm more into it I noticed a lot of dAramatic journal entries. I'll fav this guide just in case.
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CompassRoses Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2014   General Artist
Oh, hey! I found you XD
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Minakie Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Haha *pokes* :poke: 
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procon-8 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
The issue with blocking is that it MOST DEFINITELY IS used to simply block people who have disagreements with others. Some of the biggest drama Queens on this site will block you over a critique and then wonder why trolls start coming(yes real trolls) after they blocked all the critical people. The real trolls start coming just to piss them off.


The whole thing is a self feeding circle. That's why it's so fucking stupid to watch.
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LadyBeelze Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
those reactions xDD
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RenaTurnip Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014
divA dramA :icondivaplz:
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laoforye Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
可以中文吗?
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:iconstagvi:
StagVi Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
When someone hacks on your art just say: "Thank you"
And that's all you need to do.
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UltraLiThematic Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Good and wise. Everyone should read it. Specially the younger and/or new to dA. 
But really everyone. 
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MarcoEmma Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
When replying to things that can cause dArama, think before you speak. :nod:
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shadowcircifox13 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you for writing this. I find it helpful (especially as I am the type who tries to stay out of drama), so once again, thank you.
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TULAngel Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist
Life is really just easier when you accept the fact that some people are assholes and there's really nothing you can do about it. :shrug: I got bored of replying to/getting involved in drama around the same time I grew out of junior high, and my virtual life has more or less improved. Unfortunately, when someone's opinion is so mean and/or cruel I feel like I have to say something(most of the time it's on Tumblr, with their culture's horribly misled notions of how the world 'should' work), but as I mature those are becoming few and far between. If I truly feel I have to "reply" I tell a friend what a person said and rant to them about it. It helps ease any frustration or anger you get from the idiots, without getting the drama and attention they crave.
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our-leaf-ac Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Something that I'll never accept, unfortunately.... why is there soooo many assholes ? :-( (Sad) 
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Micro19 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
finally someone else who realizes tumblr's community is terrible
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MarcoEmma Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
:thumbsup:
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LoneStranger Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Kinda depressing that you have to spell stuff like this out these days.  Still it is nice to see someone doing something like this.
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Dark-Merchant Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I think that - most particularly in forum/chat scenarios - we miss out on a lot of non verbal cues, like tone of voice, body language and facial expression. if someone tells someone a practical joke they did and someone says "you are such a jerk!" we don't know if they're saying 'omg how could you do that? XD' or 'Oh my god that is going too far I can't believe you did that you stupid jerk'.

Sometimes people can come off as patronizing or schooling in these 'debates' which causes someone's back to be up because they don't know if the person providing information is out to make them look bad, or is being purposefully standoff-ish

I've seen a few scenarios where whole arguments have been started just because someone misinterpreted the cues they couldn't see, or their brain didn't register a word and they remembered it wrong.
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ourage Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I definitely agree about the body language. I am always super-cautious about my language, reading over my words two or three times quickly before hitting that "submit comment" button. It's very easy to misinterpret text on the internet or on phones, especially because so many people use abbreviated speech. I also find emoticons help a little; they simulate real life body language and facial expressions.;) (Wink) 
This is why I love face-to-face communication the most!
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Andrew-YM Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014   Digital Artist
Question: I did report someone for excessive amounts of racial, ethnic, homophobic, bigoted slurs, I even pointed out the specific part of the DA rules that prohibit them, and yet no action was taken. What can be done?
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:iconxadrea:
Xadrea Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
If this person isn't bothering any longer you I'd say not to sweat it :) (and keep them blocked)
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ExtremeYaoiFanatic Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Good advice. Could've done with way fewer reaction images and memes, but good advice nonetheless.
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JamesOxley Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Very useful, thank you for sharing!
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Spudfuzz Featured By Owner Edited Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Arguing about someone's skill level alone is so incredibly stupid, it's a really pathetic ad hominem attack because more often than not it comes from a disagreement about a controversial topic of a completely different nature (Lets say politics or philosophy for example) and then one guy thinks he's smart and can "win" the argument by belittling someone's artworks. Even outside of that context, what relevance does it have to anything? :iconwatplx:
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Nightdoodles Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well I disagree with your definition of whiteknight.
Language is dynamic, especially regarding internet slurs, and something that meant something in the past now can have a different meaning.

Internet whiteknight was indeed originally meant to describe a guy who'd defend a girl in an argument no matter what just for being a girl in hopes of gaining her attention.
But nowdays "whiteknighting" applies to anyone regardless their gender who blindly defends someone who is obviously in the wrong with equally wrong arguments, and they'd do it for a number of reasons. Be it for being their fans, or fans of the artist's fandom or their friend or just a random nobody who wishes senpai notice them. :shrug:

Now the original whiteknight has somewhat mutated into the 'niceguy' ;P
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Nekovix Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
But that means you could say that anyone defending anything for any reason could be called a white knight. Trust me, I've seen it before. I say that if you believe your in the right, and someone calls you a white night for any reason, it's not even worth talking to them, because that's all they'll believe you are.
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Aldark Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
haha. came here to say this. thank you. =P
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Slavky Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
lol...... dArama that's something I haven't seen in a while. Few years ago I came across some dArama that was causing akreon (jeez I hope it was her, I'm not sure if I remember it right). I'm not sure if she's still doing it, but she was making fun of not-so-skilled artists by remaking their not-so-good art and detailing it into weird ugly shapes and horrific creatures. 

Now she's popular and has milions of pageviews. :) the drama in the comment section was also very interesting. I also added a bit of my opinion of what started as a serious conversation about why the hell would you do that to those people. :D she's a very skilled artist, but all this fuss around her horrifications was just too much and I didn't like what she was doing to them... some of them were "cool" about it but I'm sure for a teenage boy/girl starting to draw it must be always hard.

right now I must live in another part of DA world because I just haven't come across anything similar since :D
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Seems to me that deviant's ego might have been a bit out of control. A pity she's so popular now, because skilled or not, she's sounds like an asshole.
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Slavky Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
yup :( I went to see her gallery and there was nothing anymore. Might've been even tanathe, her friend on DA, but she doesn't have anything there either.

But I found one picture that reminded me of her drawings (this is not hers) fc04.deviantart.net/fs70/i/201…
now when you imagine this, few times worse making fun of those kids... :( she said she wanted to show them where they went wrong in the drawing and she even might! But still it felt very wrong. It was like a public humiliation, she often posted links to the original drawing. And people in the comment section expressed it accordingly too.
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
You can't do that without asking. It is public humiliation. Those people did not ask for that sort of 'critique'. And if anyone said said anything she probably would have been fast to say they just couldn't take critique and wouldn't make it in the business, amirite? I see that often here when someone has said or done a really shitty thing and upset someone. "Oh, you just can't handle a real critique." It puts the blame on the poor person who has just been publicly reamed.
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Slavky Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
haha exactly, you're totally right :) that's what she always said. That they can't take critique and that she just wants them to teach something about drawing. If they don't see the details then she should add them (bad anatomy turned into monsters in translation...)
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm sure they all learned sooo much with her epic teaching style. Ha. Too much time on her hands, way too high an opinion of herself. It's a nasty mix.
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Radiant-Smile Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
...I clicked on the picture and that scared the crap out of me. D8
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Slavky Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
now imagine your childhood drawing got turned into this with far more details. I guess nightmares for life? Bucktooth 

Facepalm 
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GhazieArsha Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks, this is verry helpful ^^
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MojoLiazon Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional General Artist
lol that's a very good journal thingy, made me lol with some of the GIFs. Also helpful info.
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Liettore Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! Someone who knows that nothing is achieved with, "OMG, ur art is stoopid-er! U suck, OMG OMG, im gonna report u 4 that!!!11!!!!!1111!" 
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SpikedKanine Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
CAN I JUST....
-places engagement ring on this journal's finger- 
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AomiArmster Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
outstanding guide!
glad i stopped this kind of nonsense back in 2008 - drama free and happy
not that i was starting the arguments, i was always on the defensive and would go overboard with it.
 i just flat out don't get bothered these days.
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:iconxadrea:
Xadrea Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
Good for you :la: Stay unbothered ^ ^
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Is that screencap exchange between 'fluffybakura' and 'sparkythescraggy' real?! I think my IQ dropped 10 points just reading it LOL.
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EmisBakery Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
Would have been funny if it was real as Sparky even made her icon :giggle:     you... you big pile of meeni poo :giggle:
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It did look rather real, lol.
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EmisBakery Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
Tbh, I thought it was really until I saw that icon thing, haha :giggle:
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:iconxadrea:
Xadrea Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
:XD: No that isn't real, it was edited for comedic purposes by the deviant who posted it
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LeahPlainAndTallish Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thank god for that!
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